7 Reasons Why You Have No Friends

If you are wondering how come you have no friends then this is the right article for you.

 

Making friends is important because we are social beings, we love interacting and creating meaningful connections.

 

This is what makes us feel like we exist.

 

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Creating social connections is one of the things that make us happy and enjoy our lives around other people.

 

But what you need to know is that making friends is not for everyone.

 

We have people who find it very easy to make friends while there are those who can’t make any connections because of several things.

 

In this article, I will share with you several things that will make you understand why you have no friends.

This is why you have no friends;

1. You don’t get yourself out there.

If you want to make friends you have to get yourself out there. This is the first step that will help you get friends.

 

You can’t make friends when you are just indoors or you don’t get out of your comfort zone.

 

To some people, getting themselves out there is not an issue. They won’t have to struggle because they like the art of interaction.

 

But what I can tell you is that this is not the same for everyone. It can be that getting yourself out there to make friends is an issue for you.

 

So, if you don’t get yourself out there for several reasons, then it’s going to be very hard for you to make friends.

 

You will end up wondering why you have no friends but this is the reality.

 

If you are always isolated from people, you don’t make a move by starting with small talk with the people you come across then it’s going to be very hard for you to make friends.

 

I mean friendship doesn’t happen automatically like in the movies.

 

To make friends you have to put yourself out there, talk to people and find people you will find easier for you to interact with.

 

If you don’t get yourself out there and you are wondering why you have no friends, this is the first reason why that is so.

 

2. You have poor communication skills.

If you have no friends it’s probably because you have an issue with communication skills.

 

It can be that you have poor communication skills and that is why it’s a problem for you to make friends.

 

I want to share with you something that will change your life when it comes to interacting with other people.

 

Communication is the key to everything when it comes to interaction. And what you have to know is that it’s not always about the words you talk.

 

It involves the way you perceive information, how you respond and how you react to it.

 

If you are someone who doesn’t get what other people say or express their feelings before you then it’s going to be hard for you to connect with anyone.

 

Making friends won’t happen to you if it’s hard for you to understand what other people say and express.

 

This means you have to be a good listener, have a good understanding of what other people say when they are around you and be good enough to observe non-verbal cues to understand what is going on with someone.

 

All these are the aspects of communication skills.

 

This is the part of you receiving information from people around you.

 

You will also have to communicate with these people. If you don’t know the right words to say to them then you will always be pushing them away.

 

If you can’t express your feelings the right way then they are not going to want to be close to you.

 

It will be hard for you to make friends if you have poor communication skills.

 

If what I have just talked about in this part of the article is something that you are dealing with, then know that it’s the main reason why you have no friends at all.

 

3. You don’t fit in their presence.

To make friends, you have to fit in. Don’t get confused by this word. Let me explain to you what it means.

 

People make friends with other people because they are compatible with each other.

 

It can be that they have common interests, they hate the same people, they believe in the same things, they like the same food and so many other things I can’t talk about.

 

When I talk about you fitting in their presence, it can be that they don’t fit in your presence or you don’t fit in theirs.

 

If you are someone who doesn’t people who drink alcohol, party and do drugs, it will be hard for you to associate yourself with these people.

 

Even if they are the only people around you, making them your friends is going to be something hard for you.

 

This is because you have nothing in common at all. You are interested in different things and that is why you don’t fit in their presence.

 

The other thing is that you will also find it hard to fit in their presence because they will push you to do things that you aren’t interested in and this will be an issue for you.

 

You will find it hard to be around them.

 

Other people will not fit in your presence because they don’t like the way you handle yourself.

 

It can be that they are extremely extroverts, people with high energy but that is not the same case with you.

 

The activities don’t match up to the things you would prefer to do.

 

There is a very big gap between the two of you. Enjoying yourself around them or them enjoying themselves around you is going to be an impossible thing.

 

You don’t fit in each other’s presence and that is why you are not friends.

 

If this is something that you are experiencing, it’s one of the reasons why you have no friends at all.

 

4. You are afraid to get vulnerable around people.

Making friends is all about being vulnerable around the people you want to call your friends.

 

If you are someone who is afraid to be vulnerable around people, you are always on guard then it’s going to be very hard for you to make friends.

 

I mean it can be that you don’t want to open up to anyone because you are afraid of being judged or getting hurt.

 

You are always on guard, you don’t let anyone closer to you.

 

There are walls around you, and you are super scared to let anyone in. If you are this kind of person then it’s going to be very hard for you to make friends.

 

And that is why you have no friends at all.

 

When you allow yourself to be vulnerable around someone you want to call a friend, it’s going to open a room for the two of you to connect.

 

The person you will be vulnerable to will start trusting you and this will get the two of you closer.

 

If you open up about the things that are bothering you, he or she will also feel like doing the same.

 

In the process of you being vulnerable to each other, you will find that you have something in common that connects the two of you.

 

If you want to make friends you have to share a part of your life with them. I know it’s scary, but if you won’t do that, you will find it so hard to make meaningful connections.

 

When it comes to friendship, it’s just like romantic relationships, you have to allow yourself to be vulnerable to your partner for that relationship to work.

 

The moment you are afraid of opening up to anyone, you don’t take a step to trust someone and get yourself closer to them you are not going to make friends at all.

 

Are you the kind of person who is always on guard? If you are someone who is afraid to be vulnerable to anyone then this could be the main reason why you don’t have friends.

 

No one will want to be your friend if you don’t want to open up to them and share with them something about your life.

 

5. You don’t make an effort to make friends.

If you have no friends at all it can be that you don’t make any effort to make them.

 

Have you considered the fact that you don’t push yourself to pull people closer to you?

 

Trust me, friendship is like a romantic relationship. If you won’t express your feelings to someone you want to be with, it’s going to be impossible for you to pull them closer.

 

Friendship is something that has to be built, invest your feelings and energy into it if you want it to grow.

 

There is an issue of trust, with friendship, it can’t just develop automatically.

 

It’s not like a relationship whereby when you are in love with someone you end up believing that they are not going to hurt you.

 

You have to make an effort to show up to your friend when he or she needs you, you have to help him or her and go the extra mile for that friendship to stick.

 

You can’t just expect a friendship to happen on its own, you have to put an effort into it.

 

Meeting someone at the party or school and saying hi and sharing two or three things that won’t turn into a friendship.

 

You have to do something about it for it to be a solid friendship.

 

So, if you are someone who rarely puts effort into making friends then this is the main reason why you don’t have friends at all.

 

You don’t push yourself hard enough to grow friendships with the people you come across.

 

6. You have unrealistic expectations about friends.

You are wondering why you have no friends, but you don’t see that it has something to do with the expectations you have about everything.

 

What expectations do you have about friendship? Do you think that friendship will happen when the sun and the moon align?

 

It can be that you think friends are people who have to be there for you every second.

 

You think that they have to leave everything they work on when you tell them that you want to see them.

 

I mean you expect them to support you in everything you do in your life but that is not the case with them.

 

You expect your friendship with them to be perfect and amazing.

 

When the friendship you have with these people doesn’t meet your expectations you end up feeling disconnected from them.

 

You keep complaining about them and decide to push yourself away from them.

 

The only thing you now think is better for you is to be alone and nurse your wounds.

 

You expect these people you call friends to keep in touch with you every single day, but that is not the case.

 

Your expectations about friends are what keep you without friends. You expect things from them that are unrealistic.

 

You have no friends because your perspective of friendship is very different from theirs.

 

When you have unrealistic expectations about friendship, you will end up being disappointed with every person you meet.

 

You won’t get what you expect from them and this is going to drive you crazy.

 

This will eventually lead you to be lonely without any friends because you don’t get the friends you expect in your life.

 

It’s one of the reasons why you have no friends at all.

 

7. It can be that you don’t want friends at all.

It can be you don’t have friends because you actually don’t want them in your life.

 

You are that person who prefers to be alone and that is why you don’t have friends at all. You have never made efforts to make any.

 

The only thing you care about is being by yourself and enjoying your space.

 

You are not good with people around you and that is why you keep pushing them away.

 

You think you need friends but the truth is that you are good on your own.

  

Think about it, how many people came close to you and you decided to chase them away?

 

There are people who genuinely care about you but you think they only want to exploit you.

 

You don’t want to trust anyone, you think that everyone who tries to get closer to you is coming to get you.

 

What I can tell you is that the things you do around these people make you look like you don’t need them at all and that is why they don’t bother being around you.

 

They don’t invite you to their parties or to hang out with them because you actually showed them that you don’t need friends.

 

You do everything on your own, you don’t let anyone help you with anything.

 

Do you expect to have friends with this kind of behaviour?

 

Conclusion…

 

The things I have shared about why you have no friends may relate to you while some may not.

 

I have just shared a general thing that makes many people friendless.

 

If you have found out that most of the things relate to your situation then you should try to do something to change that.

 

You may try everything you can to make friends but it will never happen.

 

This is because you like your own company, being around these people is just a distraction for you.

 

It can be that you haven’t realized that you are not good with people but this is the case for you.

 

You see so many people with friends and you think that might be the same case for you but you are completely different from them.

 

Being different is good. Not all of us want friends in our lives. We just want that one person who is going to be with us for the rest of our lives and we forget about everyone else.

 

Thanks for reading this article, if you have any questions you should leave your comment.

 

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