9 Signs Someone Is Not Your Friend

 

Signs Someone Is Not Your Friend

If you want to know if someone is not your friend then this is the right article for you.

 

In this article, I will share something signs that will enable you to identify whether someone is your friend or not.

 

Someone may pretend to be your friend just to take advantage of you or set you up in a bad situation.

 

Not all people who want to be close to you will do this but it’s best you know these signs so that you know if someone is truly your friend or if they just want to exploit you.

 

When you come across these signs from someone who pretends to be your friend then this should clearly tell you that they are not your friend at all.

 

And the best thing you should do is to avoid them at all costs.

 

Without wasting time, let me share the signs that will enable you to know if someone is not your friend.

 

Signs someone is not your friend at all;

1. They talk bad things about you.

If you found out that your friends are talking bad about you then this is a clear sign they are not your friends.

 

This is a bad thing and you should never allow them to give you excuses why they were talking bad things about you.

 

Especially, if they talk bad about you to your enemies or their friends behind your back, this is a sign that they are not your friends.

 

Someone who is your true friend will never talk bad about you to anyone.

 

This is someone who will be ready to confront you when you have done something that he or she doesn’t like and correct you.

 

He or she will never go behind your back and start spreading bad things about you simply because you messed up some things that you were doing.

 

If you found out that your friend talks bad things about you then this is a sign that he or she is not your friend at all.

 

The only thing you should do is to cut them off.

 

2. They only get in touch with you when they want something.

If someone only gets in touch with you when he or she wants something from you this should clearly tell you that he or she is not your friend.

 

This person is using you!

 

Ask yourself, why didn’t he or she keep in touch with you when he or she didn’t want something from you.

 

He or she didn’t do that because he or she doesn’t need you at all. Your so-called friend only wants the things you have.

 

It can be money, your attention or anything that means something to your friend.

 

If your friend only gets in touch with you when he or she wants something from you this means he or she is using you.

 

Sometimes it may feel that you are helping your friend and you don’t find it wrong at all because you care about him or her.

 

You are a good friend to him or her and you know that it’s an obligation for you to help him or her.

 

But the truth is that your so-called friend doesn’t give a f*ck about you at all.

 

He or she doesn’t care about how you are doing, if he or she really cared then he or she would have always been in touch with you when he or she never wanted anything from you.

 

So, if someone is never in touch with you, he or she never makes any effort to keep the communication between the two of you going and he or she only calls you when he or she wants something from you, then this is a sign that he or she is not your friend.

 

This person is using you and there is no real bond of friendship between the two of you.

 

This is how to know if someone is not your friend.

 

3. They belittle and embarrass you.

If someone belittles you and embarrasses you without even caring about how you feel about what he or she does, this is a sign that he or she is not your friend.

 

A true friend will never belittle you for any reason. Even if you guys are in a fight, he or she will ensure that he or she filters anything he or she says or does to ensure that he or she doesn’t hurt your feelings.

 

But if someone belittles you in any way and makes you feel that you are not good enough to be their friend, this is not your friend.

 

This is someone who is only around you because he or she knows you can give him or her something that he or she doesn’t have.

 

The moment you can’t meet his or her expectation, then he or she will just push you away.

 

So, if someone close to you belittles you without even caring about how you feel this is not your friend.

 

Also, if someone embarrasses you in front of everyone, he or she does this multiple times, this should tell you that he or she is not your friend at all.

 

Someone who truly cares about your feelings will never do something like this.

 

If someone has been doing these things I’m talking about in this part of the article, they are not your friends at all.

4. They don’t respect your family at all.

Your friends should respect your family no matter the flaws it has.

 

It can be that your family has issues and being in the middle of it also makes you look like you are one of these issues.

 

When you interact with your friends, they will notice that you have been through hell.

 

Your friends don’t have the right to come in between you and your family and do things that will show disrespect to your family.

 

They should understand that you have issues in your family and you are trying your best to make things right.

 

But if your friends will go to the extent of talking bad about your family or doing anything to disrespect your family, they are not your friends at all.

 

If someone crosses this boundary of talking or doing something bad against your will to disrespect your family, they are not your friends at all and you should cut them off.

 

5. They don’t respect you.

If someone doesn’t respect you and yet they call themselves your friend then these are not your friends.

 

You should never tolerate any kind of disrespect from anyone.

 

When someone disrespects you this clearly shows that he or she doesn’t find you an important person.

 

He or she is degrading your value before your eyes. You shouldn’t tolerate something like this.

 

Someone who doesn’t respect you is not your friend, that is not one of the values of friendship.

 

Disrespect can be of any form, the things someone does for you and before you, the words they say to you, how they treat you and so many other things that I can’t mention.

 

If someone doesn’t respect you no matter the reasons for disrespect towards you this should tell you that they are not your friend.

 

A true friend will never do anything to degrade your value or make you feel worthless before him or her.

 

When you notice that someone who claims to be your friend disrespects you, don’t think too much about his or her actions, you should just let go of him or her.

 

6. They intentionally drag you into bad situations.

If someone intentionally drags you to bad situations and leaves you there so many times, they are not your friends.

 

Someone who is your friend will never drag you into bad situations at all.

 

And if he or she drags you into a bad situation, he or she will be there to help you out.

 

He or she will feel that it’s his or her fault that you are in such a situation.

 

And he or she will do everything he or she can to ensure that you are safe from any problems.

 

But if someone keeps on dragging you into bad situations and he or she doesn’t care about the mess you get yourself in then this is a clear sign they don’t care about you.

 

And someone who doesn’t care about you is never your friend. He or she is your enemy and he or she wants to keep on hurting you for a hidden agenda.

 

If someone keeps on dragging you into fights, keeps getting you locked up, he or she keeps letting you handle his or her issues that end up blowing on your face, they are not your friends.

 

You have to cut them off. They are toxic and they are going to ruin your life.

7. They push you away when you need them the most.

Someone who pushes you away when you need him or her the most is not your friend.

 

I don’t mean that your friend is always supposed to be there for you, help you with everything you need.

 

That is not realistic at all. You have to understand that your friend also has his or her life that he or she has to take care of.

 

You can’t tell me that he or she should leave his or her house on fire and come and help you when you have an issue with your girlfriend or boyfriend.

 

That doesn’t happen in the real world.

 

You will have to take care of your issues by yourself. Your friends will only help you to cover a small part of the issues that you have left untouched.

 

But your friends should understand when you are in trouble and respond immediately.

 

Your friends should not push you away when you need them the most.

 

If someone pushes you away when you need him or her the most then this is a sign that he or she is not your friend at all.

 

A true friend will never push you away when you need him or her the most.

 

He or she is going to embrace you with your issues, help you out with them and ensure that you can stand on your own before he or she lets you deal with the rest of the problems.

 

8. They don’t care if you are falling apart.

If someone doesn’t care if you are falling apart, that is not your friend at all.

 

When you are losing yourself doing things that mess up your life, your friend should see that and he or she should be the one to tell you that you are doing something wrong.

 

Whether you like it or not, your friend will tell you to stop what you are doing and even take an action to help you stop messing up your life.

 

But if your friend notices that you are falling apart by doing things that mess up your life and he or she doesn’t care to stop you, that is not your friend at all.

 

If someone you call a friend doesn’t care when you are falling apart, that is not your friend at all. He or she is your enemy and he or she wants you to waste your life.

 

A friend is someone who is going to guide you when you are following the wrong path even if you don’t like it.

 

He or she is someone who is going to stick with you when you have no control over what you do to mess up your life.

 

This is someone who is going to help you stop messing up your life because he or she cares about you.

 

But if he or she lets you fall apart without even trying to help you out then that is not your friend.

 

That is someone who came into your life with another motive other than friendship.

 

9. They rarely spend time with you.

Someone who rarely spends time with you is not your friend. If you have noticed this sign from someone who claims to be your friend then know that he or she is not your friend.

 

Your friend is someone who is going to spend his or her time with you.

 

He or she will make an effort no matter how busy he or she may be.

 

This is the person who will pass by your place and have a drink with you and share what is going on in his or her life.

 

He or she may be so busy, he or she may even miss spending time with you but in the third week, he or she will invite you over for dinner.

 

You will tell stories about the old times and the things you used to do.

 

This is someone who will make an effort to be around no matter how things are pushing him or her in his or her life.

 

So, if someone rarely spends time with you, that is not your friend at all. You should put that in a list of people you know but don’t count him or her as your friend.

 

Time is an important factor that we are working so hard to preserve.

 

If someone won’t give you that important aspect that he or she is working to preserve then that is not your friend.

 

Any relationships need sacrifice, people who are not willing to sacrifice anything for a relationship, they are not ready to be in one.

 

Conclusion…

 

If you want to know if someone is your friend or not, look at how they handle you.

 

Are they people who put you first over their needs? Are they people who care about you? Are they people who are willing to leave important things behind just to spend some time with you?

 

The moment someone handles you in a way you aren’t comfortable with, this person keeps making you feel worthless, he or she keeps disrespecting everything you stand for, and that is not your friend.

 

You should just cut them off.

 

The signs I have shared in this article, are just a few of them. There are so many things you will need to observe from someone before you conclude whether he or she is your friend or not.

 

But what I shared in this article, are some of the common things you should check on.

 

The moment you find out that someone is not your friend, you should cut them off no matter how much you care about them.

 

You care about them, but they are only around you because they want something from you.

 

Thanks for reading, if you have any questions you should leave your comment.

 

See you in my next article.